of an online support group I’m a member of:
Your list is dying, so I know it doesn’t matter. And I think that J is right, and it’s not worth my time and effort to try to explain this to you, because you won’t get it anyway.
I’m so sorry that it offended your delicate sensibilities as a RN that some guy is trying to start some ill-fated “trans-masculine support network” online and he used the phrase “not the watery BS the doctors want to tell you” and spoke in his personal website about the hoops he’s had to jump through to obtain medical care and the huge financial burden of starting and maintaining HRT…
But no trans person on this list or anywhere needs a lecture from your class-privileged cissexual ass about how there are great medical professionals out there who want to help us. And about how the “hoops” are really there for a purpose, and do we know what that purpose is? And have we heard of the Harry Benjamin Standards of Care?
We should be so appreciative, right, that some of us are now allowed to transition–no, to live–in your world? We should ignore the fact that medical professionals are always denying us treatment, blaming all our health problems on our HRT, and occasionally just letting us fucking die on the side of the fucking road because our genitals freak them out, right? Because we have you on our side to tell us:
“As a nurse I see this as a medical condition, and needs treatment by a variety of methods, counseling, medication and surgery. . . I have been down this path with my husband for 6 years. One reason why we stay moderating this site is because we want to make sure that the information given out. . . is accurate and safe.“
It all makes sense–trans men sharing personal experiences with each other online is a terrible idea, but taking [unsolicited] medical advice from some condescending stranger online is brilliant! We definitely don’t already have enough trans male nursing students on the internet that won’t shut the fuck up–your input is appreciated.
Oh, and thank you, Noble Ally, for validating my transsexuality! I’m glad you and the other gatekeepers–I mean medical professionals–think that my personal transition path is worth treating… or do I have to want genital surgery too? I mean, fuck all those fakers who only need/want “part” of the treatment options available–we know what’s really better for them to do to ease their gender/body dysphoria. In your professional opinion, should we “raise” the requirements for treatment–to keep everyone safer, and to make sure that nobody transitions who would make us look bad? Like queers? Poor folks? Sex workers? Disabled people? Am I leaving anyone out?
In short, fuck you and the fucking horse you fucking rode in on. Fuck.
No Love,
Caleb
